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Insanity.


…is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results” Tony Robbins. So it’s a new year, you want to change old habits and develop good ones. It’s important you understand why change is not easy. Old and bad habits are comfortable, safe, and does not require too much effort. However, if you are hoping for some insight into how to form new habits, the next few minutes is guaranteed to prepare you for change.  Think you can form a new habit in a few weeks? I used to think so too. Wrong. If you’ve been doing the same thing for decades, the truth is a bit more complicated.

The myth about behavior becoming automatic in 21 days, started when journalists misinterpreted a popular self-help book on Psycho Cybernetics back in the 1960’s. After all, you can probably eat more vegetables starting today, but complex tasks like playing the violin will take more time to stick. On the other hand, the New Year is an ideal time to begin forming constructive habits, geared towards enhancing your overall happiness and wellbeing for the rest of the year

Here are some basic strategies for habit formation. Set yourself up right now. Remember, it is okay to ease you into your new routines: 

Plan ahead. Eliminate excuses by plotting out your course in advance. If you want to wake up earlier, go to bed on time.

Be consistent. Regularity reinforces itself. Soon, it will be easier hit the gym after work, even if it’s raining, or colleagues are heading out for beer and pizza.

Spot triggers. Kicking a habit requires you to notice what happens right before you bite your nails or buy another pair of shoes. Are you bored at work or arguing with your spouse?
Develop substitutions. Once you know your cues, you can choose a different response. Take a walk or invite a friend out for coffee.

Review your reasons. Go over the reasons why you want to adopt your new behavior. For instance, remind yourself about the benefits of drinking water instead of soda.

Personalize your goals. While contemplating your why’s, visualize your future self. Focus on what you have to gain instead of just pleasing others.

What if you’re tackling something as ambitious as managing diabetes or transforming your dead-end dating history? Here are a few advanced strategies to get things going: 

Practice compassion. You’re bound to slip up occasionally. Forgive yourself, and move forward.

Team up. Enlist a friend, exchange support and encouragement. Eat lunch with a colleague who is trying to lose weight too.

Write it down. Raise your awareness by keeping a journal about your campaign to stop swearing or start flossing. Note what happens on the days you stick to your program,compared to the days when you drift back into old patterns.

Remove temptations. Eliminate the triggers that distract you from your objectives. Clear the junk food out of your kitchen, or the cigarettes out of your car.

Design obstacles. Make it difficult to give in to your old tendencies. Leave your credit cards at home to prevent impulsive shopping sprees.

Go on vacation. Leave home for a while. If you can afford one, vacations are an ideal time to forge new habits,  you can make a fresh start in different surroundings. 

Make time to sit down to meditate each morning. instead of becoming caught up in searching for lost socks or checking your email.

Make daily exercise (and parallel parking:) so easy you won’t even have to think about them. Positive habits make advantageous choices automatic so you’ll stick with them. You’ll also have more energy to devote to other challenges.

I hope you found these suggestions helpful. Feel free to share this post with your network.

You Your Success,

Juan

Are We Doing This or Not?


The beginning of a new year is a wonderful time to commit to making changes in your life. What changes are in store for you? Ignite your passions, and experience a more vibrant existence by making changes now. Here are a few strategies to help you get going:
Pay special attention to your health. Revitalize by eating well, exercising vigorously, and getting proper sleep. Take care of your teeth, hair, and skin. When you start feeling more beautiful, you’ll boost your self-esteem. Let yourself get excited.The changes you’re making regarding your body and overall health, will pay off.
Read more. Although you may prefer other activities, reading is one pastime that expands your mind. Focus on reading about topics you enjoy or want to learn more about. Do you love to travel? Read travel guides and stories set in the places you’d like to visit. Do you have a dog? Find out more about the breed, training techniques, and how to care for your pooch’s health. Reading expands your intellectual horizons. This will help you become a more interesting person who has plenty of things to converse about with others.
Each week, have a date with the love of your life. Dates are meant to enhance your closeness and make your relationship stronger. They also add an element of fun to your partnership. Whether it’s a Tuesday evening pizza and movie at home or a Saturday night dinner followed by dancing, spend special time each week with your partner. Ignite the fires of passion and change your lives for the better.
Set priorities and keep them straight. For example, if your priorities are family, work, and self, be sure to consider each one when making decisions. The key is to be aware of your priorities. Start this year by behaving in ways that demonstrate your priorities. Maintain your focus on what’s important to you throughout the year. Match your existence matches your priorities. You’ll become passionate about what you’re doing at home, at work, and on your own.
This year do something you haven’t done before. Nothing gets the juices flowing like engaging in a novel activity. Will it be that ten-day trip to Europe you’ve wanted to take, or finally moving into those new condos with the fitness center and swimming pool? Maybe your new experience will be something you’ve wanted to do for years ,or something you’ve just decided to explore.
Put your best foot forward at work. If you’ve reached the point where you’re bored with work, it’s up to you to spice it up. Strive to excel at your job this year. Volunteer for that new project, take on an undesirable task, or simply expand your efforts each day. Skip the gossip sessions at the water cooler. Offer extra help to your supervisor when she looks like she could use it. Document your efforts. When the chance for a promotion arises, step up. Be confident and let the boss know why you’re the best person for the job.

Do everything you can to live your best life, starting now. You’ll soon discover that you’re feeling more vibrant, interested, and passionate in all aspects of your life. Happy New Year!

To Your Success,

Juan