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How To Survive Thanksgiving Amidst Family Conflict: A Guide For Young Adults


 

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The holidays offer a unique opportunity for family conflict. Whether it’s long-standing feuds between siblings or political disagreements between relatives, the holiday season can be a minefield. 

Thanksgiving is a time when families come together to share a meal and give thanks for all they have. But for many families, Thanksgiving is also a time of conflict. If you’re expecting a tense Thanksgiving this year, it is essential to have a plan in place. Here are some tips on how to survive the day:

1. Have a backup plan. In the event  situations becomes too heated, such as leaving the gathering early or spending time with friends or other relatives instead.

2. Be assertiveIf conflict does arise, it is important to be assertive in communicating your needs. This means standing up for yourself and speaking up when you feel mistreated or disrespected. It may also be necessary to set boundaries with certain family members, such as telling them that you will not tolerate certain behavior.

3. Keep your cool. It can be difficult to stay calm in the midst of conflict, but it is important to try. Losing your temper will only make the situation worse and could lead to further arguments. If you find yourself getting upset, take a few minutes to cool off, take a way, go into the next room etc. 

4. Avoid hot-button topics. If you know certain topics are sure to start an argument, do your best to avoid them. This may mean changing the subject when someone brings up a controversial topic or politely declining to answer questions about your personal life.

5. Don’t engage in arguments. If someone does bring up a hot-button topic or starts to argue with you, don’t engage. politely excuse yourself from the conversation or leave the room if necessary. Remember, you don’t have to defend yourself or your beliefs to anyone.

6. Set boundaries. If you feel like you’re being relentlessly attacked or attacked, it’s okay to set boundaries.

7. Don’t Expect a Resolution. If you go into Thanksgiving with the hope of resolving all of your differences, you’re likely to be disappointed. Instead, focus on getting through the day without any major blowups.

With these tips in mind, you can successfully navigate family conflict during the holidays. In summary, and most importantly, try to understand where your family is coming from. Second, be honest about your feelings and take time for yourself if needed. Finally, set boundaries with family members who are particularly challenging. If you follow these tips, you can survive Thanksgiving amidst family conflict. Your mental health will thank you!

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To Your Success, 

Juan